I’m generally quite an upbeat person but every so often I go through a period of time when I feel quite low because something has happened and sometimes for no reason at all and I just can’t figure out what’s wrong with me. It’s during these times that I over analyse things that are happening in my life and kind of dwell on things that wouldn’t normally bother me. It can feel quite stressful as the mind-space is being filled with negativity or even tedious things that I’m allowing far too much of my attention to and that can be frustrating.
While I’m in these low spells I’m consciously aware that I’m not being myself and it’s not a good place for me to be in and it makes me think about my mental health which is something that a lot of people don’t give much thought to… but should.
While it’s normal to go through ups and downs in life, how you deal with them is important.
I think the first thing to do is try to identify what it is that causing your low mood or stressed or anxious state.
Sometimes I feel like it’s a tipping imbalance of my introvert and extravert sides; sometimes I’m very ‘out there’ and other times just want to be left alone; these two sides are ME but the difference between them can be confusing not just to me but those around me. Other times it may be hormonal and my most recent low spell I think was seasonal with it being darker for longer in the mornings and earlier in the evenings (I was definitely made for the summer!)
Ultimately, being aware of these moods and feelings is important. For yourself to be able to deal with it and for those around you as your mood can affect them too which could impact relationships.
So I wanted to share some things that I’ve learnt about those moments and things that I do to pick myself back up again.
- It’s easy to decline invitations to socials when you’re feeling down in the dumps, but spending time with good friends and family is sometimes the perfect pick-me-up remedy and reminder that I have great people in my life. So I make a conscious effort to say ‘yes’ more even when I’m not in the mood to go out and be sociable.
- This may sound superficial but feeling like I look makes me feel good, so I’ll add an extra pop of highlighter or lipstick or put on some killer heels to make me feel badass. It doesn’t always work but when it does I feel great!
- I’ve been REALLY bad at going to the gym for the past *cough* month and a half (I know, I know…!) but when I do go it makes me feel more energetic, fresh and clear headed. I find running really therapeutic and often do this to clear my mind.
- I take some time out to relax and clear my mind, check out my blog post on Things I like to do to relax
- Making sure you have a good balance between work and life. This can be tricky depending on your profession but knowing you’ve lived life as well as worked hard is much better than only working all hours of the day. I’ve been there before and while I was appreciated at work I didn’t feel good about it as I was giving so much of my time to work and no time to myself. So now I make more of an effort to use my time wisely and spend time doing what I want to do (as well as working hard, but being more productive at work and saying ‘no’ to things I shouldn’t be doing).
- Talk about how you are feeling, whether it’s to a friend or family member getting things off your chest can shed the weight you’re carrying around in your heart or your mind. What you don’t want, though, is someone who will only vent with you or someone who will only give you unrealistic ‘everything will be OK’s’. Someone who is logical and puts things into perspective is a good person to talk to. (Although, sometimes if you need to trash a cheating ex-partner you’re going to want to gather your pals and trash talk the ex a bit! Well, I do anyway!)
- Don’t dwell on things, it’s hard not to overthink things that may bother you but if you can’t change something that’s already happened – learn to let it go. This is probably the biggest and most important thing that I’ve learnt as I can be an over-thinker and analyse things far too much. You can’t let negativity take up too much space in your head, it’s not good for you, it’s not productive to go over things countless times and it only keeps you in a negative place when you could be seizing opportunities and happiness if you focused on the new day and the future. Let things go. It’s easier said than done but so much better for you and your well-being.
- Surround yourself with positive people. I love laughing and spending time with people who get my sense of humour! ‘Prickly people’ are a definite no for me. So when I meet people who are relaxed, fun and positive I make an effort to keep them in my life and maintain those friendships/relationships.
I genuinely feel this is such an important topic especially with the fast paced and stressful lives we live. It’s easy to forget about YOURSELF when you’re racing by in life with countless activities and commitments.
I hope you enjoyed this post and found it useful. If you have any well-being tips please leave them in the comments below or contact me via email.